I went through a terrible, financially exhausting divorce with my ex husband Tom. This dream came months after our last the divorce. I am at a cabin in the woods with a lot of people I don’t recognize but they seem to know Me and are friendly. We are on a walk in the woods. Someone points to a neglected cabin and said this is Tom’s cabin. It looked abandoned. Next everyone is having fun outside by the pool. I am lying on a lounge chair. Someone makes a joke and we are all laughing. To my right, Tom is on the next lounge chair. He smiles at me and says I’m glad I can still make you laugh. I am still laughing but do not engage with him. Suddenly there seems to be arguing in the pool. I get into the pool and swim over to the ruckus. Someone hands me a drink and then I notice Tom is drinking heavily (he stopped drinking and doing drugs over 30 years ago). I was shocked to see him drinking and said “why are you drinking? You worked so hard to quit”. He replied angrily “I never quit, you just wouldn’t let me.” I am sad for him and now I am in a hallway in the cabin and Tom runs up behind me, grabs my waist and want to kiss me. I pull away, and yell never to touch me again. Then I wake up.
Dreams often reflect our thoughts, emotions, and experiences, especially those related to significant events or relationships in our lives. In your dream, several themes emerge that may offer insights into your emotional state and how you are processing your past experiences with Tom and your divorce.
Cabin in the Woods: The cabin can represent comfort or shelter, but since it’s located in the woods, it might also symbolize a place of introspection or isolation. It suggests a retreat or a pause from the chaos of life, which could symbolize your current need for healing or solace after the divorce.
Friendly Faces: The presence of unfamiliar but friendly people could indicate a desire for support and community in your life post-divorce. They may symbolize new relationships or an optimistic outlook on your future, encouraging you to connect with others.
Tom's Abandoned Cabin: The neglected cabin associated with Tom might represent unresolved feelings or the remnants of your past relationship. It suggests that, while you’ve moved on, there may still be aspects of your marriage that you have yet to fully address or understand.
Laughter and Enjoyment: The laughter and fun you experience outdoors suggest healing and the ability to find joy again. It shows that you are in a better place emotionally and are beginning to reclaim your happiness.
Tom’s Drinking: This moment signifies a confrontation with your past. Seeing Tom drinking after he had been sober could reflect your concerns or fears about his choices and their impact on you. His angry response, “I never quit, you just wouldn’t let me,” highlights feelings of blame or unresolved conflicts, possibly reflecting an internalized struggle with guilt or responsibility for his actions.
Pushing Him Away: Your reaction to his advances, pulling away and telling him not to touch you again, signifies boundaries that you are establishing for yourself. This can symbolize your need for emotional distance and self-protection, demonstrating growth after the hurt you experienced during the divorce.
Emotions: Feelings of sadness for Tom indicate empathy but also suggest you are processing the pain of the relationship. This could represent your journey towards forgiveness—not just for him, but for yourself as you come to terms with the past.
In summary, this dream reflects a complex mix of nostalgia, unresolved emotions, healing, and a clear assertion of autonomy. It indicates that while you are moving on and finding joy, you are still working through your feelings about your ex-husband and the end of your marriage. It might be helpful to reflect on these themes in your waking life, as they can guide your journey towards fully embracing your new chapter.